Dean Dauphinais Why Father’s Day is So Difficult For…

Dean Dauphinais: Why Father’s Day is So Difficult For Me

Father’s Day is also a stressor for me because I constantly struggle with a question I ask myself almost every single day: Have I been a good father to my boys?

Because of the relationship I had — or didn’t have — with my dad while I was growing up, I would constantly tell myself that the one thing I was bound and determined to do in my lifetime, more than anything else, was to be a better father to my kids than my father was to me. Not just a better father, but a damn good father. Someone my kids would look up to and aspire to be like.

Given the fact that my father was an alcoholic/workaholic who put his whiskey and business ahead of everything else in his life, you’d think that meeting that goal I set for myself would be a slam dunk. I mean, how could I not be a better father? I should be able to do that blindfolded, with both hands tied behind my back. And how hard could it be to be a damn good father? Love your kids, say and do the right things, set good examples, teach your boys to be good men, etc. It all sounds so simple.

But you know what? It’s not. And I’m not sure I’ve succeeded.