Ask Amy Can I undo Dad’s DNR order…

Ask Amy: Can I undo Dad’s DNR order? (Answer: It’s your Dad’s order, not your family’s.)

Related: For My Father, Resurrecting the Ancient Rituals

I rested my head against my father’s chest, solid beneath me, rising and falling with each machine breath, the sound of chimney bellows. We weren’t typically a family that hugged and kissed. Although the tsunami in his brain destroyed the delicate cells that held his memories, his wit, his intelligence, I hoped for a miracle at his bedside. The babble of my 10-month-old twins and the touch of his wife and children might wake up my father.