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  • honordads 2:09 am on 06/22/2016 Permalink
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    How Disney teaches contempt for Dads.

    “Every 3.24 minutes, a dad acts like a buffoon.”

    That’s the conclusion of a small study done by a student at Brigham Young University after watching eight hours of the two most popular Disney “tween” shows featuring families. The results of the research — “Daddies or Dummies?” — are not particularly surprising.

    Are “Good Luck Charlie” and “Girl Meets World” any different from previous sitcoms like “Roseanne” or “Home Improvement”? A 2001 study by Erica Scharrer in the Journal of Broadcasting & Electronic Media found that the number of times a mother told a joke at the father’s expense increased from 1.80 times per episode in the 1950s to 4.29 times per episode in 1990.

    But what’s interesting about the new research is that the author, Savannah Keenan, also looked at the reaction of the children on screen to their fathers’ displays of cluelessness. At least half the time, children reacted “negatively” to these displays — by rolling their eyes, making fun of Dad, criticizing him, walking away while he’s talking or otherwise expressing their annoyance.

    This behavior, especially on Disney shows, has become the norm to such a degree that parents regularly tell me they don’t allow their children to watch the channel. There’s no sex or violence — but there’s only so many times they want their children to watch their counterparts on screen ignore, insult or pretend to humor their parents for laughs.

    We should probably be most concerned when dads are the butt of the joke. Decades ago, when the place of men in the family and in the work world was clear, the use of comedy to make the powerful powerless was understandable and helped lighten the mood by humanizing the authority figure….Today’s sitcoms, by contrast, often show dads trying to act like mothers have traditionally — and failing miserably.

    Our oldest daughter was about 10 when we finally got cable. It went away a week later when The Missus realized how rapidly she was devolving into Lizzie McGuire. Not to mention the trash on all the other channels.

    We’ve never missed it.

     
  • honordads 5:13 am on 03/15/2016 Permalink
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    Dads, Daughters, and Wedding Dresses (many more here)

     
  • honordads 8:06 am on 01/27/2016 Permalink
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    #HowToDad: Dallas dad not guilty for taking tween daughter’s phone:

    During the two day trial Jackson’s daughter, now 15, took the stand and testified about her father taking her phone. “It was the last thing as a mother I wanted my daughter to go through,” Steppe says. “I’m always here for my kids.” Steppe said she was confused by the verdict because she purchased the phone and maintained cell phone plans under her name. “Even if you purchase something with your own money and have a receipt, it’s not yours,” Steppe says. “Someone can take it from you.” Jackson says the ordeal has permanently ended any chances to have a relationship with his daughter. “I have to separate myself from them,” Jackson says. “I can’t ever have a relationship with them again.” Gray says the case is not over. He says he plans to file a federal complaint for civil rights violations for the way his client was treated by the Grand Prairie Police Department and the city attorney’s office. Jackson still has the phone.

     
  • honordads 12:15 pm on 08/22/2015 Permalink
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    GIRL’S-EYE VIEW OF FATHERS

    The thing to remember about fathers is, they’re men.
    A girl has to keep it in mind.
    They are dragon-seekers, bent on improbable rescues.
    Scratch any father, you find
    Someone chock-full of qualms and romantic terrors,
    Believing change is a threat —
    Like your first shoes with heels on, like your first bicycle
    It took such months to get.

    Walk in strange woods, they warn you about the snakes there.
    Climb, and they fear you’ll fall.
    Books, angular boys, or swimming in deep water —
    Fathers mistrust them all.
    Mend are the worriers. It is difficult for them
    To learn what they must learn:
    How you have a journey to take and very likely,
    For a while, will not return.

    Phyllis McGinley

     
  • honordads 8:10 am on 04/27/2015 Permalink
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    Father and Daughter Publish Two Books About Rare Bone Disease

     
  • honordads 10:21 pm on 03/22/2015 Permalink
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    Research:

    Mice raised without fathers are more aggressive. “Children raised without a father are at greater risk of deviant behavior later—and girls in particular may be more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol—according to a new study with mice. While many studies have outlined the value of a mother, few have clearly defined the importance of a father. Researchers say this is the first study to link father absenteeism with social attributes and to correlate these with physical changes in the brain.”

    Father’s absence causes early puberty in girls. “Girls in homes without a biological father are more likely to hit puberty at an earlier age, according to a new study. Absence of a biologically related father in the home predicted earlier breast and pubic hair development—but only for girls in higher income households. The findings held even after the girls’ weight was taken into account.”

     
  • honordads 2:46 pm on 03/22/2015 Permalink
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    My Dad the serial killer:

    KIM: Melissa began to write her dad letters. She would also call him and update him about her life.

    MOORE: I would tell him about my grades. I would tell him about the dances that I was going to at school. And also, I would ask him for advice. I really wanted to have fatherly advice and wisdom just like he used to give me. My father’s advice was really good most of the time. I felt like the letters that I received from my dad were a different side of him. Instead of him signing the letter with a smiley face, he was signing, love, Dad. Thick or thin, I would still be his daughter, and he would still be my dad. Even though he can’t physically be there for me, he could maybe be there emotionally for me.

    KIM: As time goes by, Melissa goes to college, gets married, has two kids. And for 10 years, she tried her best to keep him in the loop. Still, she never mentioned him to her kids. Melissa says that most people won’t understand. But she knew that her dad, Keith Jesperson, was a serial killer – one of the worst ones. And still, she also knew that the same man was a loving father.

     
  • honordads 7:02 am on 03/16/2015 Permalink
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    Jaleesa Jones: I laughed when my father died.

    I didn’t know a thing about resentment until we started talking. I didn’t know how far people could veer from your fantasies of them. I did not know that kind of disillusionment.

    My father had a drinking problem and he used to beat my mother. She left him after she had me, convinced that she was better off raising me alone than in a household under siege. My father didn’t deny any of the stories and he didn’t offer an absolute apology for them, either. It was always, “It’s complicated,” or, “People in love make mistakes,” followed promptly by “I’m still your father. You still need me.”

    I oscillated between resenting him and trying to prove I was worthy of his love. I won a statewide minority pageant in high school. I got accepted into a top public university. I made Dean’s List semester after semester. I did this all to convince myself that I was valuable and that he should have done better by me.

    Still, I couldn’t bring myself to talk to him.

    He called our house after I won the pageant and I walked away from the phone. He sent texts every Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I steeled my heart off to him.

    Things finally boiled over one Christmas, when he accused my mom of poisoning my opinion of him. I exploded and told him to stay out of our lives.

    He did.

    And the hurt continued.

    Until he died.

    Then it hit me: We were now truly separated and it hurt even worse. A year later, I understand why. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t want Donald in my life. I just couldn’t accept him as he was — broken, flailing and human.

    It’s easy in all our anger to lose sight of it, but our parents are people too.

     
  • honordads 10:20 am on 03/04/2015 Permalink
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    “Hell no.” Curt Schilling takes on his daughter haters:

    I look at it like this. If someone walked into your house and punched your daughter square in the face, what would your reaction be? You and I probably are thinking the very same thing. How is that different than what happened to my amazing Daughter?

    Here’s how.

    Those bruises on your daughters face? They’ll heal over time and go away. My daughter? She was bruised and battered every bit as bad as that punch. Her scars are there forever.

    For you “men” trying to somehow side with these guys? Go for it. You don’t have far to go in life, in fact you may already be at your finish line.

    Ladies? I don’t care if you’re 7 or 70. There is no time, no place, no reason in your lives ever that anyone, most especially a man, is allowed to talk to you, or treat you, this way.   99.9% of the tools that continue to rant didn’t even read the article, and they most assuredly didn’t click on the links.

    Young women, and men, are KILLING themselves after being cyber-bullied.

    You have a son, daughter, sister or brother? Niece, nephew, cousin? One that you would go to the ends of the earth for? Think about it for a second. Phone rings and that person has died, hung themselves because they were bullied. How are you doing? What’s your reaction?

    Let me be very clear again. I have no issues with people ragging other people. It’s been a part of my life for 40 some years. Ask an athlete, soldier, fireman, policeman, locker rooms might be the most uncivil places on the planet. We say things to each other in there no one else is allowed to say to us. It’s how you express your love to your teammates/co-workers/brothers in arms. I am just about 100% sure no one, and nothing, in that environment brings that outside, and for good reason.

     
  • honordads 1:19 pm on 02/15/2015 Permalink
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    Turnabout is fair play:

    ‘Do you want to see a snowman?’ he sings at her, to which she quickly replies: ‘No, build a snowman.’ Ignoring his daughter’s helpful correction, Mr Ankney continues with his own version of the song, singing: ‘You don’t have to see a snowman. If you want to be a snowman, you don’t have to pee a snowman.’

    ‘I thought that I’d go out and play, and I’d have the day, and then I’d go away.’ While Mr Ankney only changes a few words in the song, it is enough to send his daughter into a fit of anger.

     
  • honordads 10:16 am on 02/13/2015 Permalink
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    Musical bond between father, daughter outlasts Alzheimer’s

    While she’s involved in support groups and a faith community, it’s a part of her past that continues to provide the most meaningful connection between Loretta and her father. “There will be times in there when I’ll play ‘Faded Love’ or ‘Tennessee Waltz’ or ‘Amazing Grace’ and he’ll get emotional,” Loretta said. It’s emotional for Loretta, too, because it was her father who taught her how to play the fiddle and took her to competitions when she was young. Now they play together, the music bringing back memories and feelings that at this point are beyond words.

     
  • honordads 4:31 pm on 02/06/2015 Permalink
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    HEH! James Brown’s Daughter Shares New Book About Her Legendary Father.

    Author Yamma Brown, the daughter of the God Father of Soul, James Brown, visited the KCAL9 studios Thursday to talk about her new book, “Cold Sweat: My Father James Brown and Me.”  In the book, Brown shares heart-wrenching story of growing up in the shadow of the Hardest Working Man in Show Business, and how she’s helping victims of domestic violence today.

     
  • honordads 9:23 am on 02/04/2015 Permalink
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    Honoring Dad with Samoas® and Thin Mints

    “Daddy Ethan loved Girl Scout cookies,” said Emily. Her birth father, Ethan Milliron, had a childhood bone cancer and was treated at Children’s even as an adult. He passed away when he was just 24. Last year, Emily and her Girl Scout troop raised enough to deliver 4,000 boxes of cookies to Children’s. This year, her goal is 5,000. So far she’s gotten donations from all 50 states and a list of countries. She almost has enough to buy 3,000 boxes at this point.

    Drop her a note at gscookies4chp@gmail.com, or click here to help get her to 5,000.

     
  • honordads 8:16 am on 01/26/2015 Permalink
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    Pushing back twice as hard: Father of bullies fired after Minnesota man takes Snapchat harassment of his daughter into his own hands.

     
  • honordads 9:21 am on 01/22/2015 Permalink
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    Woman Repays Kindness of Adoptive Father by Donating Kidney to Him.

     
  • honordads 8:25 am on 01/22/2015 Permalink
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    #HowToDad: Prior Lake Father Calls Out Teen Daughter’s Bullies Online

     
  • honordads 2:37 pm on 01/21/2015 Permalink
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  • honordads 2:34 pm on 01/21/2015 Permalink
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    A Daughter Needs A Dad
    to give her refuge in a home secured with faith
    to teach her the importance of being a lady
    to teach her that her value as a person is more than the way she looks
    to protect her from scary nighttime creatures
    to answer the questions that keep her awake at night
    to make the complex simple and the painful bearable
    to protect her from thunder and lightning
    to teach her what it means to always be there
    to protect her when she is not wise enough to protect herself
    to help her take risks that will build her confidence
    to teach her to recognize truth and reward it
    to teach her to recognize sincerity and encourage it
    to teach her about fairness
    to teach her to stand up for herself
    to teach her that men and women can be good friends
    to teach her that a joyful heart is filled with peace rather than deceit
    to show her that true love is unconditional
    to teach her that forgiving is a natural thing to do
    to teach her that she can forgive more than once
    to teach her the difference between being firm and being stubborn
    to teach her that respect is to be earned, as he has earned hers
    to teach her that family is more important than work
    to prepare her to perservere through hardship
    to calm her when she is stressed by her challenges
    to give her a strong, willful character
    to teach her how things work
    to fix her favorite things
    to show her how to fix things for herself
    to teach her the joy of serving others
    who teaches her she is important by stopping what he is doing to watch her
    to tell her all she needs to know about boys
    to show her that all boys are not like the one who hurt her
    to teach her how to recognize a gentleman
    to stand with her on the day she marries the man she hopes will be just like her father
    to teach her that her role in a family is greater than the work she does
    to teach her to spend responsibly, save for a rainy day, and give with a generous heart
    so she learns that men can be trustworthy
    because without him she will have less in her life than she deserves

    — from Why A Daughter Needs A Dad: 100 Reasons, by Gregory Lang, 2002 (via)

     
  • honordads 12:35 pm on 01/15/2015 Permalink
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    The most important point about Princess Culture is not that our daughters are glamorous, but that they are honored.

     
  • honordads 8:14 am on 01/13/2015 Permalink
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    The “heartbroken” father of the widow of one of the Paris terrorists handed himself in after seeing her police mugshot on television and declaring “That is my daughter”, neighbours have said.

    He didn’t know who she was spending time with? I can’t imagine that with our daughters.

     
  • honordads 8:13 am on 12/30/2014 Permalink
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    Reality TV for Lawyers: Maureen McDonnell’s daughter trashes her mother to help her father

     
  • honordads 9:26 am on 12/16/2014 Permalink
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    Bell Ringer Honors Father Who Donated $1M To Red Kettles

    Peter Niemczyk passed away from Parkinson’s disease back in September, just two months before they could continue their annual tradition. Each year, Jenna would travel to her father’s home in Las Vegas to ring the red kettle bell with him. “We rang the bell together for the better part of a decade,” Sandell said. “This is something we really bonded over.”

    After he retired, Niemczyk volunteered every holiday as a way to repay the organization that helped him in his time of need. “When my dad was young, the Salvation Army was there when his dad was overseas during World War II,” Sandell said. “They provided whatever was needed for him and his family during that time.” 

    After his death, Sandell never doubted her plan to continue that legacy in Minnesota. “I decided the day he died that I would continue to ring the bell for as long as I could, just to help with the grief and to pay it forward and that kind of thing,” Sandell said. She isn’t alone in her effort. Her cousin and husband have also picked up bells to ring in his absence. “It’s something that was always important to him, and it will always be important to me as well,” Sandell’s cousin Michael Niemczyk said.

    Sandell knew this first holiday without her father wouldn’t be easy, but by ringing in the season of giving she’s able to keep her father’s memory alive. “He’s with me every minute,” she said. “He’s here right now, but I just have to carry on.” 

    Peter Niemczyk would also match the coin donations in his kettles every year. Over his time as a volunteer, he donated more than $1 million of his own money.

     
  • honordads 6:42 pm on 11/19/2014 Permalink
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    Always Daddy’s Girl: What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew

     
  • honordads 2:19 pm on 10/29/2014 Permalink
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    (much more here)

     
  • honordads 8:54 am on 10/24/2014 Permalink
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    Moments before our walk that afternoon,
    I realized the path ended too soon.
    Not long enough to hold his hand,
    this amazing person, this loving man.
    Not long enough to engage his eyes
    and remember his always brimming with pride.
    Not long enough to stand by his side,
    as he was by mine after every rough tide.
    Not long enough to laugh with him still,
    after every bad joke,
    after every tough hill.
    Not long enough to walk with this man,
    who has taught me to be the person I am.
    Not long enough as we walked by his wife,
    to thank them both for my wonderful life.
    In all the walks I’ve taken in my life,
    first as a girl and now as a wife,
    I’ll remember that walk I took with my father
    and always wish it could have been longer.

    — via Family Friend Poems

     
  • honordads 8:23 am on 10/16/2014 Permalink
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    Love All Dads: Five things I’ll miss when you grow up.

     
  • honordads 3:59 pm on 10/06/2014 Permalink
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    Why I Commemorate the Anniversary of My Father’s Death on Social Media

    For me, every time I get a notification from Instagram or Facebook that my photo has been liked, I am also forced to think about and commemorate my father. It is a constant reminder throughout the day not only to keep my dad’s memory in my thoughts, but also it’s a reminder that I have a huge number of people who support me. And yes, I am aware that 17,000 followers does not equal 17,000 true friends; however, I do know that a large number of those people would be there for me if I called on them. It’s easy for me to underestimate the good people in my life and their willingness to understand and support me. Social media-ing my dad’s memory is just one more reminder that I’m not alone in this.

    Hope it nudges them to remember their own Dads too.

     
  • honordads 2:23 pm on 09/25/2014 Permalink
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    Listen: Our children naturally need a lot of instruction from us. But when was the last time you just hung out with your child and listened to them? Chuck Swindoll recalls such a time

     
  • honordads 2:16 pm on 09/25/2014 Permalink
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    Dalrock: Earlier this week Bill Frezza rhetorically asked at Forbes why drunk female students are never described as irresponsible jerks. Now he knows.

    More and more universities are treating our sons and daughters like lame-brained, helpless idiots who are incapable of being responsible young adults. Sort of the opposite of the empowerment they were promised.

     
  • honordads 11:12 am on 09/25/2014 Permalink
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    Raising My Daughter To Be a Sports Fan

    As a sports fan, though, I struggle with how to explain the way to disassociate what happens on the field from what happens off the field. We just learn too much every day about head injuries and the permanent damage it causes (and the league’s refusal to accept responsibility), or about domestic issues in which men we pay to inflict damage on other equally-sized men are also inflicting damage on women and children. In an increasingly smaller world, watching and caring is getting harder and harder to justify to myself and I’m truly happy to have had the practice. I just don’t know if I have the energy or passion to perform these ethical gymnastics. 

    But if you don’t, somebody else will.

    By the way, don’t forget to tell her to not believe everything she sees on T.V. Sports media is complicit in this too. 

     
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