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If women are hit harder by divorce, why tell each other “leave him – you’ll be better off”?
Civil Rights Update: Veteran chooses jail over giving his disability money to ex-wife.
A Suncoast veteran went to jail Wednesday in order to keep all of his VA disability check. It’s all because he and his wife are divorcing and she wants half. Under federal law, the money is exempt from alimony payments. But state law says she may be entitled to it. Terry Lynn says he wants to set a precedent to help all veterans in similar situations. He is on full disability from injuries he suffered while serving as a Marine during the Gulf War, but is now going through a divorce battle with his wife he met after his time in the military. He says she wants nearly half of what he gets: $1,500 a month.
“It’s how I pay my bills. There is no way I can afford to pay that amount and still survive,” says Lynn. He says he’s bought her a house and made other compensations, but that’s as far as he’s willing to go. “There is actually federal laws which protect the veteran’s compensation check from alimony and being garnished.”
Stay in your kids’ lives. Lives may depend on it.
Bravo said, “It’s horrible. I love my baby. It’s a tragedy. Foul play was involved. It’s already been confirmed. The message is stay involved with your kids’ lives and check up on your kids. This is a bad thing but there are bad people out there, even bad people who are with a child’s mother. Look at what happened. In two days I lost him.”
I don’t want to heap more guilt on your head right now if you’re separated from your kid’s mom. But this is a great example of why staying together “for the sake of the kids” is actually true.
Millionaire actress divorces, woman and child hardest hit.
In Relationships, Be Deliberate – For milestones like moving in together, intent (rather than chronology) determines success.
Found this bit interesting:
One of the main findings was about how couples handle relationship milestones, like moving in together. Every relationship goes through milestones, or transitions, that mark how serious the relationship is getting. Going on a first date is one; a first kiss is another. Other milestones might include the “define the relationship” talk—the moment a couple says they are actually a couple—sex, engagement, marriage, and children.
In the past, these milestones tended to follow a straightforward order that began with courtship, passed the milestones of marriage, cohabitation, and sex, and ended with children. The structure and rigidity of courtship meant that couples had less freedom, but also that each milestone was ritualized with most couples following the same script. Men didn’t just propose to women, for instance; they first attained permission from the father of the bride-to-be. Couples moved through these milestones deliberately, in part due to societal expectations and in part because they knew that each step had life-altering consequences.
Now marriage comes at the end of whatever sequence people want to follow. About nine in 10 couples have sex before marriage, half of all women cohabit before marriage, and four in 10 babies are born to unwed moms.
The freedom to choose any relationship sequence has benefits, but it may also come at a cost long-term.
Not just out of sequence, but few milestones at all. A shame. Like any endeavor, greater effort means sweeter victory. I certainly won’t rob my future sons-in-law of the experience.
Besides, for a real man, it ain’t that tough.
Stasi: Robin Williams’ $30M alimony to ex-wives contributed to his death. It certainly didn’t help.
New Fathers 4 Justice want nothing less than a legal presumption of 50/50 contact for a child with their parents if they split up, and the abolition of the deeply controversial, undemocratic secret court system that still exists within the ‘family’ division despite forty years of inequality and protest.
Such a well-padded protest, though. They’d get more attention to their cause this way.
My Journey to a Genesis: Why I Created a Mobile Tool That Helps All Dads With Custody
It was a day after court when I decided to build something. This something would help me keep better visitation records so if I ever needed them, I had them. The concept was born after seeing that another system cost $100 per year per parent, designed for desktop computers. I needed something that was simple, practical, and mobile-focused. I wanted a system that kept my notes, and auto-communicated certain activities, like a transfer in custody. Most of all, I wanted a system that was free-to-use, and universally available to as many people as possible, while being in the best interest of the child. The system was not to be designed around parents. Even in my own experience, there are many people who are raising children at times that are not mom and dad. I wanted something for everyone, not just me.
This is going to help a lot of folks.
Jon Vaughn’s got a F/B blog too – drop by and say howdy, won’t you?
It is commonly thought that the rate of divorce in the church is the same as the rate of divorce among those outside the church, supposedly a whopping 50 percent. According to Harvard-trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, though, the rate of divorce among church attenders is “maybe 15 percent, maybe 20 percent for all marriages.”
Feldhahn could find no actual evidence that the divorce rate in society at large and the church was an abysmal 50 percent. She spent eight years seeking the truth in this matter, and she came to dramatically different conclusions from what “common knowledge” describes. Feldhahn produced a book called The Good News About Marriage to debunk the discouraging notion that divorce in the church is around 50 percent.
Tough love for single dudes considering single moms. Her last thought on the kids was the toughest.
UPDATE: The counterpoint – Single Dads? Hell Yeah! She’s right about the responsibility piece.
“Father freed after a decade in jail as daughter admits she lied about him raping her when she was 11 as she was ‘disappointed in him.’ “A 23-year-old woman has told police she lied about her father raping her when she was 11 – accusations that put him behind bars for nine years. But Cassandra Kennedy, from Longview, Washington, will not be charged as prosecutors fear it could stop others from reporting sexual assaults.”
…‘I wanted him to love me, and I didn’t think he did at that time,’ she told the detectives. ‘I took my own vengeance,’ she added. Kennedy told police she got the idea of setting up her father from a friend whose stepfather had been sent to prison for a child sex crime.
There are Dads in churches going through this right now.
*Hmmmm…wonder why they turned comments off at the article?*
Human rights update: Fighting unjust divorce and custody laws in Minnesota.
But here’s the funny thing: Democrats are unanimously against this bill, and Republicans are for it. You know who else is against it?
Divorce lawyers. Even my own lawyer is against it.
The Governor vetoed it.
And it’s not funny.
Human rights update: Judge rejects mother’s allegations of sexual abuse against father. “The judge concluded that the father had not abused his children, nor behaved inappropriately around them. He added that preventing the children from seeing their father was ‘damaging’ and he hoped the damage could be repaired.” As noted earlier, nothing can replace time lost with his kids.
National Parents Organization: Why Temporary Custody Orders Are a Big Deal.
Read the whole thing.
Vicki Larson: Why is no one paying attention to [suicide rates in] divorced dads? There’s no government money in it.