We have a lot of posters in our society claiming ‘Don’t be that guy’ based on the idea that a rapist seeing this poster will decide to not rape after seeing…a poster. We all know that is a farce. What these posters actually do is shame men. As if every man sitting next to a drinking woman is thinking about how he just can’t wait to rape her. No. Pure shaming of men and male sexuality.
Now, women, let’s talk. It’s very important you stay conscious with your sexuality. If you have shame about having sex or expressing yourself sexually, seek guidance and help. You can seek out a therapist, Life Coach, psychologist and also talk with a friend who expresses her sexuality without the need to be inebriated each time.
If you go to a bar and get so drunk you can’t even stand or you black out- you are abusing yourself and you need help. It’s not healthy to HAVE to get drunk to have sex! Nor is it safe. You are putting yourself as prime target for any criminal and that includes a rapist. No, men aren’t lurking around you waiting to rape you, rapists are. Rapists are criminals that are not limited to one gender. Men are not criminals, criminals are and that is a gender open reality.
Wow. She’s so right here – there is a wide gulf between “blaming the victim” and being wise enough to know when you’re putting yourself into harms way. Had this same talk with my daughters last night.